success v love

questions has been raised, would u let go of love in order to go for the success that u have been longing for? being an average jane, i say be both. be successful and be in love. well, if u come to think about it, when u love ur work too much, it will defeinitely gets u somewhere, which in this case, that somewhere is the journey to success. so yeah, basically u get hold of both, in love and being successful..but with your career obviously!

sometimes people tend to forget that although being successful will definitely bring u somewhere, but do u really want to go 'somewhere' alone? well if u prepare to do so, i say good on u! but stop saying u still have ur family to celebrate ur success with, because just how long will your siblings or parents even stay there with you at the top. they have their own life. they have their husband to take care of (ur old man in case u forget) and they have their children to feed (ur nieces and nephews that is).

how pathetic can u be, thinking that everyone else will push their family aside to celebrate the success with u, while u selfishly push away people who loves u just to get there where u are, or in fact where u will be. love is there for a reason. love is there to push u harder, to push u to the distance, to help u get what u want. without love, u just lost. the theory is simple, if u dont love ur job, u wont be successful. human being needs love. we all need to be in love and be loved.

money in the world, cant buy u no love. money in the world, cant buy u good life. money in the world, cant buy u loyalty. money in the world is just too much that it apparently mean nothing to u. here i am sitting in the office thinking, how is my family doing back at home? is umpy ok? my friends, do they still remember me? do they even miss me? but on another hand, theres which company do i wanna work for next? do they even want me? how much do i wanna get paid? when will i be able to buy my own property?

that is life. the life that makes u a normal human being. feeling content is not a crime. feeling over the moon is not a crime either, let alone being successful. its not a crime! its just sad, when everything that u need is in front of ur eyes, and u still look for it elsewhere. we dont live forever to have such thought of letting go of those who love us, just to get to the top. who will be waiting for u? remember who u push down on the way up, they wont be there to catch u if u fall. because the world is round. scientifically (eh?), the gravity will still push u down one day. i feel sorry for u really. going up alone, oh well, if that makes u happy, but coming down alone? who am i to judge who wants what? but i always remember one thing, if i were to get there to the top one day, i dont wanna get there alone. i want to be able to hold umpy's hand and say "WE DID IT", rather than "I DID IT". u know what they say, the more the merrier!

-lady-

Valentine's fuss

it was Valentine's Day last Tuesday. Happy belated Valentine's Day to those who celebrate, and to those who dont, you dont need that one special day to celebrate love with your other half, in fact celebrate it every day. i dont celebrate Valentine's Day, well actually not anymore. i used to celebrate Valentine's day when i was younger, but as i grow older, things change, and the belief has changed too.

year by year, every time when it comes to Valentine's Day, there will always be different perceptions and different thought among different people. i am fine with opinions and such, but when u keep talking about the same thing over and over again, especially as silly as this one, it starting to get really annoying. people forget that not only drug and alcohol can be abuse, social networking like facebook and twitter are easily abuse as well. walls and timelines are all full of arguments and opinions that it gets out of order really.

some are playing angel, reminding other people in a very cynical way that i believe no where in the Quran says that if u wanna help spread good words, do it in a way that will hurt other people's feeling. another are playing innocent samaritan, telling other people to just get over themself and nothing wrong with celebrating Valentine's, while others, openly wish their other half Happy Valentine's Day.

quite honestly, if u wanna help enlighten other people about how we Muslims cannot celebrate Valentine's Day, do it in the most decent and intellectual way. i am pretty sure (POSITIVE), that people will listen and take it to heart. as for those who celebrate Valentine's Day, knowing you're not supposed to, keep all presents, cards and your stories to yourself, so that people dont have reason to talk. also for those who's trying to play nice and acted so-called cool, then i suggest keep all disgusting thoughts to yourself.

i have nothing against people who promote religious things or good deeds or good thoughts or anything good, but may i suggest to keep it in the most low profile and humble actions, avoiding bad mouthing and negative vibe around you. for those who always have that evil thought in them, well honey, u might wanna shut it and stop poking your nose at other people's problems.

so as long as u have a strong belief and strong faith in Islam, u will not get carried away, or at least u should not get carried away at all. so for God sake, stop debating about the silly Valentine's Day celebration. the celebration of love should be celebrated every single day. so why bother sticking on the 14th February to do it, and not 5th June or even 1st December (its my birthday, so i deserved to be pampered with love if i want to!)?

LOVE

well if u have a brain, a functioning one i supposed, u should be able to see how irrelevant the debates about Valentine's Day is, year by year, when what u should be debating about could be of something more useful like, the economy or the world news. but then again, if u r useless on debating about Valentine's Day, how can u possibly be better to talk about something more intellectual.

so people, celebrate love everyday. it doesnt have to be a bouquet of flowers, tell ur other half how much u love him/her, it does makes both of u happy. theres no need to tell the whole world how lovey dovey u r everyday, cause that sweetheart, just doesnt work either! its more special if its kept between u, cause IF u decided to go ur own way, at least u dont look like an idiot who makes a fool out of herself by telling the whole world that she loves him, he loves u, we're match made in heaven bla bla bla. in case u did, save urself from humiliation, especially if things really doesnt go ur way. well, at least ur heart broken, and ur pride is not!

-lady-

if its meant to be

ive witnessed couples who have been thru lots in their relationship, heartbreaks, long sleepless night, nasty arguments, misunderstanding, u named it! but almost all these troubled relationships that i came across have a jolly happy ending. some of these couples that i know are either married or engaged.

L.O.V.E

no, i am not here to point out what were their mistakes or where have they gone wrong, but what im trying to prove is that, the saying is indeed true "if its meant to be, its meant to be", even the saying "if u love someone, let them go, and if they really love u, they'll come back". all them cases have different issues but the same happy ending. they break up, they make up, they hate each other, they love each other. when they're down, they'll asked u for advice and no matter how good u are at advicing like "u deserved better", "forget him", "ull be fine", they will eventually get back together over and over again.

and when they do, u start thinking, is it due to the immunity that they'll survive another day, or really, they just make it happen, or what? these men or women, they sure are stronger than any of us, having to forget and forgive, move on and move in, but among all that, its because the love that they have for each other are just strong enough to get them together.

and that is why, being in a stable relationship doesnt ensure u a walk down the aisle, being in a long period relationship doesnt mean a long-lasting marriage awaits u. God do works in a mysterious way. ive seen it before, and i dont write about something that is superficial. i only write things that are factual, based on my observation. and based on that, these people really do sound happy and ever-so-in-love with each other. i wish them the best, dont mind hours ive spent trying to find ways to makes u feel better (kidding! ;p). everybody deserves to be happy, and that happiness differ from one person to another. thats why sometimes u thought "she still wants to marry that dickhead!" or "i dont know what she sees in him", because unlike God, love works in a crazy way. maybe only that dickhead makes her happy, perhaps she sees every good thing in him, unlike everyone else around her.

hence, i would like to make a toast, have a very happy good life people, u deserved it and dont let anyone says u dont, love endlessly, may God bless us all. cheers!

til death do us apart

-lady-

Human being we are

Ive been a very good observer, but that doesnt mean my observation is right. I read things that i wanna read, i hear things that i wanna hear and i see things that i wanna see. We are after all live in the exact same world, making the exact same mistake, and because of that, i mostly keep some thought to myself. What amuse me is that how people have that guts to say it out loud and yet its all get back straight to their face. Have u heard of something call KARMA? Yes, that one my friend. That oh-so-famous one.

They asked, why are some women are not wearing their hijab? Most answers would be not ready yet, the time has not come yet, so on and so forth. Then they say, might as well not wearing the hijab if u behave certain way, or if u wear some cover up and yet provocative outfit. So come on now, make up ur mind, which is which?

And then there's do this if ure a good muslim and do that, then ure not a good muslim. I am not questioning the needs for us muslims to help enlighten each other up, but then again, be one who does not show off, because God ask for His slave to not tell the whole world about ur "ibadah". Its always between u and Him. It does not annoys me that u want to help enlighten others about whatever u learn, but by saying that u dont wanna get into trashy conversation and then starts talking about one, where does it lead u to?

Also, gossip around, bantering other people about how bad they are in a very disgusted way. How does that makes u a better human being, and worst, a better muslim then they are. Words that come out from your mouth possibly are far worst than what they did or how they behaved. Help me understand how is that by doing so makes u a better human being and muslim than they are?

Sometimes we forget, that the world is round, what goes around comes around, what goes up will always comes down. Also, what have been slurred out, u can never take it back. Damages have been done. I have my flaws too, i admit it. But i will never do those things in public. Yes, its best i keep it to myself, and that way, i'll learn secretly. I am after all just a human being like u. But i believe, some things are better left keep behind closed doors, like your dirty mouth and your ugly thought! Its a disgrace and that u should be ashamed of urself.

But then again, maybe i was wrong, maybe thats how its supposed to be. Maybe thats how to enlighten people in the best way possible. Maybe i am a little bit under-knowledge and that maybe things shouldve been different if it were treated in a different light.

-lady-